A common myth parents often have happens because they tried a new reaction to a negative behavior by their children. They think if the behaviors become worse, the new parenting technique failed. Actually, the exact opposite is true.
If you change your parenting technique to react differently to your child's negative behaviors and your child's behavior immediately gets worse, the technique is probably working! Don't stop, keep doing what you're doing and the behaviors will eventually subside (if you're being consistent).
Children's behaviors become worse because they don't take you seriously when you do something different. Also, you've changed the rules of the game without letting them know and they're caught off guard. They will do anything to break you down so you go back to the old way of doing things--which doesn't get them to change their behaviors.
When your child immediately becomes worse, pat yourself on the back and smile--you're moving toward something better.
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